Helping your autistic twins take care of their hair can be quite a challenge. Many of the issues related to hair are due to either anxiety or sensory processing needs. The more you know about this, the better you can help your twins care for their hair. In this series, we will talk about three areas that can be difficult for autistic twins: hair washing, brushing and hair cuts.

A bit of investigation can go a long way

Your twins, triplets or quadruplets may have very different hair, especially if they are fraternal. If so, they may have different colors, textures and how long they can go in between washes before it looks dirty or greasy. They may also have very different attitudes towards washing their hair. With my triplets, sometimes I could never get them in, and sometimes I could never get them out!

Your twins may want more control over the process to convince them it’s time to wash their har. Do they prefer a bath or shower? Or what about a shower seat, so they can still shower but sit down? Would they prefer to stand over the sink or tub and lean in for their hair washed? Do they want to go first or let their twin go first, or do they want to go in together? Do some trial and error to find out what works best for them.

Many autistic adults talk about the trauma of showers or hair washing. Sometimes this can be because the water is coming from above, so it is more unpredictable. Look for a shower head with a detachable nozzle and is height adjustable. Some showers come with massage heads that allow you to control the water pressure. Allow your twins to try different things to see what they like. You can also experiment with different temperatures to see if your twins prefer warmer or cooler water.

Do your twins have a favorite character or scent? You might be able to alleviate bath time stress by using Harry Potter or Disney shampoo. Take them shopping and let them pick out their own character or scent. Scents like lavender can be relaxing, while citrus or mint can be refreshing or revitalizing.

New equipment

Sometimes using equipment can help. Foam or plastic caps or visors keep faces and ears dry while shampooing. A wet washcloth on top of the head might help keep water in the right places.

Depending on their age, your twins may a distraction in the bath. If they are younger, try bath toys or crayons. If they are older, try sensory lights or a shower radio to turn your bathroom into a dance party.

Getting wet not an option? Try dry shampoo. Buy it in most drug stores, or make it yourself. Try cornflower or run oats through a blender to get a fine powder. Sprinkle the dry shampoo into the hair. Be sure to get the roots or other areas that tend to be greasy. Brush the dry shampoo through to the ends of the hair. Watch for any areas on the hair that look patchy or powdery.

When it’s really a challenge

Speciality equipment that used to only be found in hospitals is making its way online. You can buy a variety of products such as hair wipes or non-rinse shampoo. Some families use shower caps that come with either foam or dry shampoo inside. Although these products seem like they might be more complicated than other methods discussed here, it may be just what your twins need.

Although not ideal, some parents rely on swimming or using a hot tub to at least get their autistic child to get their hair wet. If swimming is enjoyable and seems like a reward, they may be more likely to tolerate a quick rinse off and wash while in their swimsuit.

What suggestions do you have to share about washing your autistic twins’ hair? Share your thoughts in the comments below. Be sure to follow the blog for the next article in this series.

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